Individuality ~

Human beings are able to achieve their best potentials if they accept their true nature and bring it to their conscious level; it is not only about “knowing” or “being aware”. We need to really understand the four constituents that make us whole: our body (physical plane), mind (mental plane), heart (emotional plane) and spirit (intuitional plane); how they work or function in chorus, and how they affect the way we naturally represent our inner-world and respond to the outside-world. We often call this 4-in-1 integration as inherent personal style or temperament or natural tendency, depending on the resource we want to use as reference.

The point is: the four constituents or planes altogether have a very powerful influence on our individuality. It makes each human being unique because of the different blend of planes. It makes each of us rich, because here lay our natural strengths in many forms that we call inner-potentials. It also makes us vulnerable and in need of others because of the existing and missing ‘survival’ kit that seem to differ from one human being to another. That is how we develop sociability. Interaction is the attempt to connect with others through positive interdependence; it facilitates exchange of experience, knowledge, emotions and ideas that help us reflect and learn. That’s how it should be. Unfortunately, in reality we also witness co-dependence reinforced by mutually harmful behavior patterns.

Vulnerability also brings in a need to develop self-healing power through passion, devotion and the modeling of divine love. This is how we develop spirituality.

Personality ~

With other internal factors like self-worth and biophysical factors that influence an individual from within, and external factors that influence an individual from the outside, our personality make-up is then shaped. Personality is not the way we represent ourselves naturally. It is a combination of the natural-self and the learned-self, polished through experience and time in response to self-urges and conditions promoted by opportunities and challenges provided by the environment. Our personality is the way we relate to human society and how it is organized. In other words, it is correlated to our choices of behavioral shifting in terms of relationship both in personal and professional settings. While individuality is our inner-self, personality is our outer-self that we project to the world.

Unique individual beings store inner-potentials waiting to be unlocked. Once they are explored and released to the surface, more opportunities and challenges from the environment awaits to test them over and over again until the individual decides whether the discovered potentials are worthwhile to develop. If empowered, these potentials may lead us to something great that may benefit mankind. Ignorance or negligence of one’s “inner-potential” is a huge loss because of the sacrifice of eventual forces that might create breakthroughs.  In this case, the individuality is overwhelmed by social demands. Alternatively, the human being shines while assuming life-roles and social-functions through one’s perfectly designed Individual Being. Developed individuality and refined personality, in fact, may emerge simultaneously. Here, the inner-potentials mature to a significant capacity that enables transformation of authenticity into an expression that subsists in harmony with one’s surrounding.

Character ~

Conflicts occurring  in this world might involve actions, feelings, thoughts, or expressions … between a person and one’s self – the attempt to understand one’s personality as an alternative to individuality, … between one’s self and another/other self(s) – the attempt to understand others or the society contrasted with individuality, … and/or… between one’s self and the ultimate unknown of the universe – the attempt to understand individuality versus one’s realm of spirituality.

If the conflicts are constant or intense, the situation likely calls for meaningful priorities in life. Certain principles or values are now set and affect the choices and decisions laid. Built up as recurring qualities that are positive in nature,  these are what we define as character. It becomes apparent especially in times of crisis. The more intense the conflicts to be dealt with, the stronger characters become, and they appear as consistent behavior. This would be possible only if the individual finds peace of mind while living up to one’s principles or values, or if the individual is engaged to a meaningful purpose or goal.

Behavior ~

While character has a positive connotation, behavior is more general. It corresponds to one’s belief or attitude (outlook toward life, people, things or situation), and can be positive, negative or valueless. Behavior is likely to change when the attitude is altered. Attitude can alter only when experience or circumstances provoke compelling reason to change.

Manners ~

While behavioral patterns might be led by the conscious or subconscious-self, manners, on the other hand, is performed willingly or halfheartedly, and is quite difficult to maintain. It is superficial; and is without depth of character or attitude unless considered worthwhile. Manner is a demonstration of politeness, appropriateness and culture based on norms (standard patterns of behavior that are considered normal in a society).

The Whole Being ~

In developing a whole being, the layers: manners-behavior-character-personality-individuality are necessary to confer. It will help us become more conscious about the impact of our role as a parent, teacher or leader. It will help us to reflect on our self, social and spiritual development, and continue to grow as a whole being. It will help children learn from their parents and students from their teachers and nations from their leaders because the persons they look  up to are fluent in acting, feeling, thinking and dreaming aloud as a whole being.

This argument is undeniable if we agree that the goals of human development (and education) are nurturing human potentials to reach their full capacity … equipping individuals with life skills … modeling relationships through positive interdependence … and preserving humanity through great refinement and concern with the higher things in life.

Life is Beautiful

September 2, 2008

Life is beautiful
We love until we die

When you run into my arms,
We steal a perfect moment.
Let the monsters see you smile,
Let them see you smiling.

Do I hold you too tightly?
When will the hurt kick in?

Life is beautiful, but it’s complicated.
We barely make it.
We don’t need to understand,
There are miracles, miracles.

Yeah, life is beautiful.
Our hearts, they beat and break.

When you run away from harm,
Will you run back into my arms,
Like you did when you were young?
Will you come back to me?

I will hold you tightly
When the hurting kicks in.

Life is beautiful, but it’s complicated,
we barely make it.
We don’t need to understand,
There are miracles, miracles.

Stand where you are.
We let all these moments pass us by.

It’s amazing where I’m standing,
There’s a lot that we can give.
This is ours just for the moment,
There’s a lot that we can give.

It’s amazing where I’m standing,
There’s a lot that we can give.
This is ours just for the moment,
There’s a lot that we can give.

Temperament Affects Decisions

September 2, 2008

Speaking of decision-making … in approaching tasks or solving problems, firstly I usually think and consider things through and thoroughly. Then, it would be continued by search of facts or evidence to support my hypothesis. Before making any choices, I let my intuition flow and color my judgments. Sometimes the decision would stray a little bit from the expected layout …  yet it often turns out to give a good result.

Somehow, there are also other circumstances where my decisions rely heavily on intuition. Not likely to be drawn from sudden urges or desires; but merely because there are not enough information which are valid from true premises. Well .. no choice, my friend, especially when the clock refuses to stop ticking and the time span reaches its limit. However, I would prefer the use of logical thinking in order to find results or draw conclusions. I’m most confident that satisfying outcomes are stemmed from well-thought decisions.

Compare the above illustration with an expression in Numerology known as “temperament“. Our temperament is fourfold, according to  the four divisions of a man: body, mind, heart, and spirit. Here they are:

Physical – represented by body and concerned with material aspects, practicality, system and order.  Mental – represented by the mind and concerned with the reason, logic and facts. Emotional – represented by the heart and concerned with emotions, feelings, affection, imagination, inspiration, creativity, and artistic endeavors. Intuitional – represented by the spirit and concerned with inner-awareness, non-materialist and psyche.

Each of us have different temperaments depending on the degree of balance between the four components mentioned above. It gives a clue how we tend to make choices in life. In my case, reasons (mental) and sentiments (emotional) are the ones that work back-to-back in most of my decision-making process. While facts (physical) and inner-guidance (intuitional) are relatively overrulled. In the past two years I have learnt to trust my intuitions, though, and it had helped me in making decisions when forthcoming conditions are not easily forseen or predicted.

In Numerology each plane is associated with the letters that shape up our name, and our preferences are expressed by the intensity of each plane shown by the most number of letters. You can do your own analysis or otherwise, go inward and reflect to understand your personality makeup.

So, what’s your temperament and how do you use your energy in making choices? Are you inclined to be practical, logical, emotional, or intuitive?  ~

Live Life With Purpose

August 31, 2008

Today I logged in FS, and found out that someone had emailed me, commenting on my ‘shoutout’ post: ‘Live Life with Purpose’. My response was: “Well, Dear .. I do live life with purpose, otherwise I would not make any last minute changes in my decisions”. 😀

This is not a joke, My Dear … It is to assure that the choices I make may serve the purpose that was set right from the beginning.

In many cases, we get confused when facing a lot of choices and tend to delay in making decision. The only way to approach this situation is by weighing the pros and cons in relation to the ‘desired effect’, which in other words means ‘purpose’ 🙂 . To some people, best solutions turn up at the final moment. To others, decisions are best when promptly made and they stick by it resolutely. What you can do is find a way that works for you!

In other cases we often complain of not having any choices at all. The truth is .. there are times when we face dilemma of having to choose between unsatisfactory alternatives: either “to accept”, “to repel” or “to fight”. We are always given with choices but the unfavorable situation might lure us to turn away from reality.

Attaining our purpose has everything to do with the act of choosing and deciding. That’s life! Questions often asked are: “What if there are not enough information or resources to support a sound decision? What if we make the wrong decision? Wouldn’t we go off track?”

Hmm … my answer would be: So what? That’s perfectly fine. You can always get back on track. We learn through our mistakes. We achieve mastery by exploring, experimenting, experiencing and correcting. That is how we normally learn in life no matter which turn we take. So .. just live your life with passion!

When choices are laid … and when a decision is made … then there must be a sense of purpose involved. Regardless of the quality of the outcome and the undesired impacts, the person has exercised “living life with purpose” and there is always invaluable lessons to learn 🙂

Feeling Empty Inside?

August 29, 2008

Each of us have heart’s desires which might be consciously realized or not, related to either one or two numbers below which are associated with certain needs.

When our heart’s desires are fulfilled, we sense satisfaction or tranquillity ~ a state of peace and calm.

When our heart’s desires are neglected ~ emptiness and unhappiness are likely to reside within us, no matter how succesful we might appear to be.

Each of us are expectantly the ones who understand the food that feeds our soul. Unfortunately, many of us, for different reasons, are disconnected with our inner-self and put great efforts in compromising and pleasing others who claim to know about what are best for us.

If you feel emptiness … ongoing loneliness … voids deep inside your heart .. then this is your wake-up call. Listen to what your inner-voice has to say: You deserve to be happy ~ with the source of happiness defined by you! So … go for it!

True happiness is the inner joy which nothing outside can destroy ~

Inner- versus Outer- Self

August 28, 2008

If anyone asks me about my favourite colors, I would immediately answer: Bold Red, Black and White! Why? I don’t know exactly. However, Green and Orange are often the colors of choice for my clothings. Why? Hmm.. now I’m starting to figure out why.

When I studied Numerology, I understood that our heart’s desire might conflict with our outer personality …OR .. it might not! Depending on each person, of course (don’t forget ~ each of us are unique individuals). The heart’s desire is the inner motivation that underlies our choices and actions ~ knowingly or unknowingly. While the outer personality is how we project ourselves to the world ~ or how we want to be seen by others. In my case … Bold Red, Black and White represent my hidden desires .. whilst Orange and Green reflect my outer personality. Now, I’m going to relate these colors to certain characteristics.

Bold Red, Black and White ~ My Heart’s Desire (Number 22 modified by Number 11)

As far as I know, Bold Red is associated with energy, strength, determination, passion, desire and love. Black is often related to power, elegance, formality and mystery. White is all about light, goodness, innocence, purity and virginity.

Orange and Green ~ My Outer Personality (Number 3 modified by Number 4)

Orange combines the energy of Red and the happiness of Yellow. It represents enthusiasm, fascination, joy, creativity, attraction and encouragement. While Green is the color of nature. It symbolizes growth, harmony, freshness and fertility.

For some of you .. the colors associated with me might seem like a dazed mismatch. To others who know me well .. I’m sure the previous examination could give a clearer picture of my personality and comprehensively explain the kind of person I am ( please don’t smile 😀 ).

Some people are easy to read because the colors of their heart’s desire are exactly the same with what are captured by their surrounding. They are often described as ‘being true’. However, it doesn’t mean that those whose nature are contradictory are ‘untrue’. Sometimes they don’t even understand why they are like that. It takes a lot of effort for them to harmonize their inner- and outer- self.

What I’m trying to say, My Dear Friends … it takes time to see the combination of colors that beautify the people who are close to us .. our love ones. Yet, we might not be fortunate enough to see all the rays of their colors.

It might take your whole life to understand someone completely. So be patient .. accept .. and forgive. Enjoy the process of getting to know the person 😉

In My Life

August 27, 2008

~ The Beatles ~

There are places i’ll remember
All my life though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends i still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life i’ve loved them all

But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When i think of love as something new
Though i know i’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know i’ll often stop and think about them
In my life i love you more

Though i know i’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know i’ll often stop and think about them
In my life i love you more
In my life i love you more

My Rebirth

August 25, 2008

This is the day of my rebirth. The time has come for me to revive and build up on new life opportunities, challenges and changes ~

For some time now I have met new encounters and had deepen some mutually friendly feelings with a bunch of long-known gentle spirits; souls who have touched and enriched my life. (I’m blessed ~). I’m glad that some still remain, though some have departed to pursue their next journey (still learning to give in and to let go ~). God bless you all, my dear ones. I pray that each of you live life to the fullest.

Whilst for you .. R.Y.A.N. ~ thank you for your everlasting warmth and guidance. I wish I could hear, feel and see more of you. I welcome and cherish all the love God is sending me through you. God bless you, My Sweet Angels ~